I write in my book, “Meet Me Under The Eiffel Tower” about the spiritual link to pleasure. How is it that the term “pleasure” tends to make one first think of sex? It may be sometimes linked to sex but there are so many more opportunities for pleasuring oneself than are sexually-related. I mention in my book how some of the people of my Church frowned on the idea that I went to Paris for fun…somehow, that seemed unacceptable. I asked my book club to research the link of pleasure to spirituality; you could have heard a pin drop. Pleasure somehow has come to be connected to guilt. In “The Heart and Soul of Sex” author and PhD. Gina Ogden, states “Sexual response is more than physical. It is a rich and complex experience that involves our whole beings. We are actually hard-wired to experience sex multi-dimensionally.” This writer suggests that we are hard-wired to experience pleasure multi-dimensionally.
The mind, body, soul connection cannot be ignored. Popular author, Christiane Northrup writes about it in her books. I continued writing about it in my book: “If you have a partner, pleasure can come in dosages of cuddling, hugging, kissing, touching, shared humor, listening to and caring about each other. It can also come through massage, yoga, laughter, friendship, calming music and anything that gives you positive pleasure. In Paris, it was the music, the art, the opportunities for growth in all sectors in my life…”
But, I caution, “be realistic…there is such a thing as negative pleasure, such as drugs, alcohol, gossiping, anything that ultimately is destructive or self-destructive…Associate only with positive people; they will hold you accountable. While Mae West might have been quoted: “Too much of a good thing can be wonderful”,… responsibly define good thing.”
So, however, you define pleasure, whether it be with your sweetie lying next to you each evening, taking a bike ride through Versailles or tending to your flower garden, recognize, value and, yes, even cherish that which gives you pleasure. It is the healthy thing to do.
Look for more thoughts on the topic of pleasure in the future.