I had to chuckle recently at a review I got on my book, “Meet Me Under The Eiffel Tower”. The reader was aghast that a woman in her sixties would write about sex (much less share some of the details): how unseemly! I never answered her. Clearly, she was a young reader for had she been older she would not have been shocked that women over fifty or sixty can and do have sex lives (men, too!). They may not be as candid about talking about it as I am but, my dears, sex doesn’t stop at any magical age. We don’t stop thinking and enjoying (or longing for) a partner who “gets” us. We celebrate the joys of life through the joy of sex. We comfort through the disappointments, the heartache, the pain of living by …yep, you guessed it, having sex. It is not everything but it certainly adds dimension to living (as I discuss in my book). You can live without it but you can live more happily with it.
As we Baby Boomers age up we are still protesting long-held beliefs by others. Let us think for ourselves, do for ourselves, learn for ourselves as we did then and as many of us do now. We want to orchestrate our life our way and many of us are finding it to be as exciting after fifty, sixty or seventy as when we were twenty, thirty years old, abeit in some different ways. Some of that excitement comes with experience and confidence in our own decisions, our own lifestyles, our own knowledge of the world. Living any other way would be a waste, wouldn’t it?
Why should anyone apologize for having a sex life just because of their age? Ridiculous! The Baby Boomers’ ability to embrace life as it should be, protest what shouldn’t be and follow our own drummer will probably never wane for many of us. So, youngins’, get use to our strong, joyful voices still advocating sexuality! Every time I turn around, another magazine, newspaper article, TV show or movie is being shared with the world regarding life after fifty. It is only healthy! It makes us young at heart.
Before my book even begins I list several quotes that embrace my own philosophy. Here are a few of them:
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by doma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice…have the courage to follow your heart and intuition”. – Steve Jobs
“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away.” – Unknown
“While we have the gift of life, it seems to me the only tragedy is to allow part of us to die whether it is our spirit, our creativity or our glorious uniqueness.” – Gilda Radner
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